Reading the Signs: Does My Ex Want To Get Back With Me?

Posted by get my ex back

December 6, 2008

Does my ex want to get back with me? Break-ups are common in every relationship - but so is getting back together. However, not everyone can tell whether their ex is simply being civil and friendly or paving the way for a second chance. In order to avoid getting the wrong idea and hurting yourself all the more as a result, here are some points you need to consider:

1. Missing You - It’s a normal reaction for every individual to miss his or her partner. This is even more so after a long relationship of 1 or 2 years or more. If your ex is showing signs of interest, do consider the possibility him or her simply missing you. In any case, don’t jump to conclusion. Otherwise, it will only lead to more heartache.

2. Regrets - On the other side of the spectrum, after a long relationship, a break-up can also be an eye-opener for you (if you were the one who broke-up with your ex), or for your ex (if he or she did the breaking-up). Other than missing you, it’s also very possible that he/she or you could be regretting the decision and indeed, wants you back. Not every notion of regret is a sign that you or your ex want to get back, though. After all, there are many aspects and roles that both of you play in the relationship: you have played the role of the lover as well as the role of a friend. The question now is: does your ex regret losing the lover in you, or does he or she simply regret losing a friend?

3. Game - Let us not rule out the possibility of you being played. While this may sound crude, it is a very natural tendency or reaction for your ex to want to know how you are and how you react to him/her after the break-up. Your ex could be playing the game for various reasons:

Recreation - While it is possible that your ex wants you back, it is just as equally possible that he or she is simply whiling away the time with you while waiting for the next prospect. Sad but true; and the sooner you consider this possibility, the better.

Pride - He or she may want to know the extent of the damages he or she has caused. In such case, the more miserable he or she finds you, the bigger the boost to his or her ego.

Guilt - Depending on the reason why you broke up, your ex may be haunted by the guilt of having hurt you. While after the break-up, you may see your ex as the vilest creature on earth, it doesn’t rule out the fact that he or she may be born with a healthy sense of conscience and is slowly being plagued by the thought of having hurt you. A sad truth about this though is that just because he is genuinely sorry for having hurt you, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he or she still loves you and wants you back. Establishing communication again to find out how you’re doing may only be his or her way of appeasing and pacifying his or her guilty conscience.

These are just some thoughts to consider when pondering on the question: does my ex want to get back with me? Although there is no absolute certainty whether he or she does, indeed, want you back or not, or whether you will end up getting back together and be successful or not, there is, however the flicker of hope and possibility once the abovementioned points are thoroughly examined. After all, in the end, it is still up to you to acknowledge them as signs of rekindled love - or deny it altogether and risk losing the chance to be happy - again.

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